By Laura Leavitt

Gospel Doctrine lesson 20 covers John 12 and Matthew 21-23. The objective stated in the manual is “to help class members recognize and avoid hypocrisy and thus strengthen their commitment to Jesus Christ.”

Our Objective

To focus on Christ’s identified behaviors of hypocrisy as found in Matthew 23, that we may reflect on our own character. The working definition for hypocrisy (sourced from Google) will be: “The practice of claiming to have moral standards or beliefs to which one’s own behavior does not conform; pretense.”

Commentary

The lesson manual invites the teacher to ask class members to silently consider these questions: “Am I paying tithing, giving to the poor, attending my meetings, and serving others for my own glory or for the glory of God? In all my actions, do I seek to draw closer to my Father in Heaven and Jesus Christ?”

As I tried to wrap my head around the idea of what hypocrisy really is, it became a little confusing in the sense that we, especially as disciples of Christ, cannot possibly live up to everything we profess to believe. Does that automatically give us pretense? I can think of people who think so. It’s a difficult task to think of attempting to draw closer to the Father “in all things” when so much of our lives involve mundane matters like getting to work on time.

Lately I’ve been trying to increase my weekly running mileage. Is that for my glory or for God’s glory? I could spend an hour meditating on all the reasons I’d like to run more and still not be entirely sure of the answer.

My gut reaction when considering the concept of what it means to be a hypocrite was thinking of a billion examples of rotten hypocrites and not stopping to think of how to improve my own hypocritical tendencies. There’s something so unpleasant about considering your own moral/behavioral dissidence. It’s tough to know where to start.

The good news is that I did find some answers. The first comes from President Uchtdorf from his conference talk, “Come Join With Us”. He says:

If you define hypocrite as someone who fails to live up perfectly to what he or she believes, then we are all hypocrites. None of us is quite as Christlike as we know we should be. But we earnestly desire to overcome our faults and the tendency to sin. With our heart and soul we yearn to become better with the help of the Atonement of Jesus Christ.
If these are your desires, then regardless of your circumstances, your personal history, or the strength of your testimony, there is room for you in this Church. Come, join with us!

Let’s contrast “earnestly desir(ing) to overcome our faults and the tendency to sin” with the attributes of a hypocrite as defined by Christ in Matthew 23.

Hypocrites:

“say and do not”
“bind heavy burdens and grievous to be borne, and lay them on men’s shoulders; but they themselves will not move them with one of their fingers.”
“all their works they do for to be seen of men: they make broad their phylacteries (a small leather box containing Hebrew texts on vellum, worn by Jewish men at morning prayer as a reminder to keep the law) and enlarge the borders of their garments”
“love the uppermost rooms at feasts, and the chief seats in the synagogues”
“devour widows’ houses, and for a pretence make long prayer”

There are many more examples of what hypocrisy is in Matthew 23 and they are all pretty egregious, but I do think it can be easy to adopt hypocritical attitudes about some things. The lesson manual does a great job of pointing some of them out: “For example, when we attend Church meetings we may be more concerned with being seen by others than with worshiping God. We may complain about Church assignments where we do not receive much attention for our service. We may sustain our Church leaders and then criticize their decisions.”

A deep sense of honesty and humility seems to be the first step to overcoming hypocrisy. We have to look beyond that natural reaction to point our finger and defend all of our actions as just. We need that earnest desire to overcome our faults and then have the courage to act upon it.

I can’t help but think of my mom when talking about this ability and awareness to overcome hypocrisy. My mom has always been quick to admit her own faults and failures and really, truly always wants to overcome them to be more Christlike. Here’s just one concrete example: We never used to discuss politics. I told my mom when I was 18 that I’d registered for the opposing party. It escalated with raised voices and ended with a silence that lasted for years (only on that particular topic.) We both thought we were right. We wanted to defend what we knew to be true. Over time however, she softened. She still doesn’t side with me politically, but we’re able to discuss it. She recognizes that I’m trying to do what’s right and she’ll listen to my reasoning. It has helped me listen to hers. And honestly, at some points in my life, this development felt impossible. In order for that change to happen, my mom had to identify herself as someone who couldn’t listen the way that she wanted to be listened to during a political discussion (something nobody wants to admit). The change wasn’t overnight, but I am so grateful for it now. We’re much closer than we were back then.

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Other Related Women’s Voices

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Increase in Faith, Patricia P. Pinegar

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